Giving Up; With Help From An Avid Blogger

I’d like to clarify a few points; I’m a blogger, not a writer. I merely opine about movies, books, and music, and then give them ratings out of four, I’m certainly no critic of any kind. When I discuss day to day occurrences, I do so to illustrate either the humour, absurdity, or heartwarming nature of the event because I definietly have no expertise in the fields of either sociology, or psychology (I also, interestingly enough, abhor the word “Expertise” with a burning passion that I’m sure that both Jung and Freud would relish analyzing). Additionally, my grammar has a tendency to be impeccable, while my punctuation can be lacking, and furthermore my introductions are weak. Of course, these are all details that can be gleaned by reading my articles, and any analysis of my character would no doubt reveal these same facts. Before I move on, I’d merely like to point out that I once wrote an article on writer’s block that was absolutely horrible for these exact reasons.

The article can be found on the blog (I won’t hyperlink it, for obvious reasons), and it was written during my vacation in Vietnam. At the time that I wrote it, I was tired and jet lagged; I was excited at being in Vietnam for two months, and I was also nervous (excitement works in humorous ways, I’ve always found). That being said, I’ve always had the option of not writing; this blog has never been and most likely never will be a paying job. I was never forced to write anything, and everything that I have written (and subsequently published) was done because I wanted to. In short, there was nothing forcing me to publish the aforementioned abysmal article, except for my own mind. Though, when I first started blogging, I made it a personal habit to publish one article a day (at least), and as I continued on (with the days turning to weeks, and the weeks turning to months), more and more events required my attention.

Once everything was dealt with, I returned from the hiatus with a few articles; some were good, most were bad. Writing this blog has always been a cathartic process that allows me to discuss my opinions in a relatively calm forum. Suffice it to say, I love blogging, and I thoroughly enjoy the writing/blogging process. What happened for some time, however, was a matter of mixed interests. Simply put, I started to use the blog as a means of defining who I am; I’m a writer, I’m a blogger, I’m a critic, I’m an observer of the human condition, I do this, I do that, and for the longest time, the only thing I did was write for the blog. In short, I used the blog to define who I am. Put in the most basic terms imaginable, I let a single occurrence define every aspect of my existence.

That being said, phrasing what happened like I just did makes it seem like something of an addiction, though the lines between addiction, enjoyment, and obsession are disappointingly close, so it wouldn’t surprise me if the true definition lay between one of the three. I like to think that I wrote out of pure enjoyment, but the truth is that I started writing articles out of compulsion, and not absolute fun. I remember telling myself that I had to write an article, and when I now ask myself “Why?” I find that my answer is almost nonexistent. I didn’t have to write, and I will never have to blog. I merely wanted to, and want to.

Of course, all of this information is trivial if there’s no genuine application, and therein lies my point: sometimes, giving up is an acceptable course of action. For a moment, I’d like to discuss a previous article that I was planning on writing, a discussion on letting go and giving up. I had planned on writing this article sometime after returning from Vietnam and I found that as I tried more and more to actually produce something, I couldn’t create anything. The article that I was planning on publishing just wasn’t writing itself, so I did what any reasonable individual would do; I gave up on writing it at the time, and I moved onto discuss other topics. Any observant individual could see a stark difference from the blogger who had spent hours forcing himself to write drivel (on writer’s block, no less), and the individual who merely choose to accept that he couldn’t write (about letting go and giving up, ironically).

The truth of the matter is that there is nothing wrong with giving up and despite this fact, it’s an almost intrinsic quality of the human species to frown upon doing so. Characters on television, in movies, and books constantly face difficulties that they must overcome and giving up is seen as weak (or worse, being poorly written). At any given moment, characters such as Ichigo Kurosaki, Harry Potter, Hamlet, Romeo and Juliet, Captain Ahab, and even Starsky and Hutch had the chance to give up and let their circumstances get the better of them. Suffice it to say, they didn’t; they tried their hardest to make sure they could succeed and we, as readers and humans, cheered them on, wanting them to continue succeeding (Captain Ahab being an obvious exception to this rule) The point is, they didn’t give up, because giving up would have meant the end of civilization and, more importantly, the story.

Giving up is seen as the point of no return, where one cannot continue from. If we give up, we are weak willed, and faulted. If we give up, we are a disappointment to not only ourselves, but to everyone around us. We have no purpose, and no reason. This, obviously, is wrong. For a moment, allow an avid blogger to opine the truth: giving up, if the continued action will yield no positive result, is not wrong. Giving up, if it means saving our sanity and upholding our self image, is acceptable. Giving up, if it means being able to stand up and live another day, is the best and most logical action to make. Any individual who states otherwise has been saturating themselves in too many Saturday morning cartoons and must, at once, be sat down and analyzed in case of blunt force trauma.

You see (and yes, I do know that I’m violating the one rule of writing by breaking the fourth wall in a non purposeful way), giving up is not this diabolical, disappointing event. It’s quite the opposite really; moving on and continuing with a course of events that will yield no result, no data, and no difference is the mere definition of insanity. There is, however, a point that must be made; before one can even think about giving up, they absolutely must try even if the only purpose is to see what happens. The blog has been eye opening in that way as well: after publishing the writer’s block article, this overwhelming fear would find its way into my mind, and I’d always worry about whether or not any given article would be viewed enough, or good enough, or even whether it was worth clicking on. My introductions (and therein lies the corollary) would always stop me from continuing specifically because I knew that they were my weakest points. I wouldn’t continue because of this inhuman fear, and I’d merely give up, without even trying. Luckily, thanks to repetition and practice, I’ve found an introductory groove and, while the fear is still there, I’m not paralyzed with it.

That, in summation, is what it all comes down to; fear, giving up, writer’s block, bad introductions, poorly written articles, letting go: these are all things that should be in our minds. These are things we should consider and always think about, but we shouldn’t be afraid of them to the point of paralysis. We should always have enough fear in our hearts to try to be better, but not enough that we give up before we even begin. After all, that’s the thing about giving up, there’s nothing wrong with giving up in the end, but there’s everything wrong with giving up at the beginning (especially because things are difficult). There’s everything wrong in giving up without even trying.

As always, this has been your Admin, the Avid Blogger; comment, subscribe, and crtiticize, and DO remember! Always look on the BYTE side of life!

-EK

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  2. i like it

    • creardDal
    • December 20th, 2011

    quite intriguing post

  3. Good to see a taelnt at work. I can’t match that.

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